Who Spilled the Tea?
Your Sunday dose of real talk, radiance & community for 30+ women
16th November 2025
🌸 Hey, Gorgeous One!
I know life has felt especially heavy for many of us lately – whether it’s been emotionally, financially, mentally, or all of the above. If that’s you, please know you’re not alone. This space, this little corner of the internet, is here to bring you a moment of light. My hope is that this newsletter wraps around you like a warm hug, brings a little joy to your day, and reminds you of your own strength, softness, and sparkle.
You are seen. You are worthy. And you are so very loved.
Now, grab y’self a cuppa, snuggle in and enjoy a wee read 🙂
Love ya
Mean it
(Na)talya x x
💛 The Wellness Journey
Detoxing your body in order to heal
I know quite a few of you have heard this story before, but my biggest passion is seeing women healed, empowered, and thriving in every area of their lives. If I could wave a magic wand and instantly heal every woman’s emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical wounds – I would. But true healing and self-worth don’t come overnight. They come through learning, growing, and choosing to love yourself enough to keep going, even when it’s hard.
Since the events of 2020, I’ve met so many women (and men) who have struggled with declining health and energy. While health issues have always existed, something shifted after that time – and many people have noticed lingering symptoms or unexplained fatigue, especially after receiving the vaccine. People are searching for answers, for ways to reclaim their wellness, balance, and confidence.
While my passion is for seeing women heal and live their best lives, it was actually my husbands experience that got me excited that we all can heal from the after effects of the Covid 19 vaccinations.
Here is my hubbies story. I believe it will give you hope for your future as well x x
https://thirtyplusandfabulous.com/how-to-detox-after-the-covid-vaccine-what-helped-my-partner-heal/
Women in Business
30+ Business Spotlight
Every Thursday morning, in the 30plus group, we post the above picture up and you get to promote your business in the comments.
We believe in celebrating and uplifting women who are chasing their dreams and building amazing businesses. Every woman has a unique story, a spark of creativity, and the power to make a difference – and we want to share that with our community!
That’s why every Sunday, we’ll be shining a spotlight on a different woman-owned business, selected from the Women In Business post. . From passion projects to established brands, we’re here to celebrate their courage, inspire others, and remind every woman that your ideas matter, your voice matters, and your business matters.
Join us in supporting women in business – because when women rise, we all rise.
And, with that, please help me to introduce, Charli Mclachlan – emotional strength and trauma coach.
I first met Charli when I watched her interview (you can check it out here: YouTube), and I was immediately struck by her raw honesty and profound strength. She spoke so openly about her journey in trauma, healing, and emotional resilience – not just from a theoretical place, but from lived experience.
Charli’s ability to hold space for difficult conversations, especially around relational trauma, religious deconstruction, and self-worth, is truly extraordinary. She brings a sense of compassion, clarity, and courage that feels both grounding and empowering.
If you’re looking for a woman whose work is deeply rooted in helping others rebuild, reconnect, and reclaim their story – Charli is someone you definitely need to know.
Finding Yourself Again: My Honest Review of Charli McLachlan Coaching For Women Ready to Heal, Grow, and Reclaim Their Power.
If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t even know who I am anymore,” you’re not alone. Life after 30 has a way of waking us up – to what we’ve been tolerating, who we’ve been trying to please, and how much we’ve neglected our own hearts. That’s why I want to share something special: Charli McLachlan Coaching. Because what Charli offers isn’t just “coaching” – it’s healing, truth, and empowerment rolled into one.
Why Charli’s work matters So many women I know – myself included – reach a point where we realise we’ve been living in survival mode. We’ve poured ourselves into everyone else: partners, children, careers. We’ve hidden our pain, silenced our stories, and accepted far less love and respect than we deserve. Charli McLachlan helps women undo all of that. She’s not your typical life coach – she’s a trauma-informed guide who walks beside you as you learn to release shame, recognise red flags, rebuild self-worth, and finally believe that healing is possible. Her message is simple but powerful: “You are NOT what happened to you. You are how you respond.” And honestly, that one sentence changes everything.
What makes Charli’s coaching different I’ve seen a lot of self-help spaces that promise quick fixes. This isn’t that. Charli’s work is raw, real, and deeply compassionate. She doesn’t sugar-coat trauma, and she doesn’t rush your healing. She meets you exactly where you are – whether you’re coming out of an abusive relationship, questioning your faith, rediscovering your worth, or simply feeling lost in midlife. She helps women: Reclaim their identity after years of people-pleasing or pain Recognise unhealthy patterns and break them for good Rebuild confidence and self-trust Learn to love again – starting with themselves Every session feels like a safe conversation with someone who truly gets it.
The kind of women who thrive with Charli Charli’s coaching seems to speak straight to women 30+ – those of us who’ve lived a little, hurt a little, and are finally ready to grow. She understands busy mums, shift-workers, women juggling everything while quietly falling apart inside. She gets the exhaustion of keeping it all together and the courage it takes to start again. Her work reminds us that healing isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.
My honest reflection What I love most about Charli’s approach is that it’s never about perfection – it’s about progress. It’s about giving yourself permission to evolve, to breathe, to rebuild your faith in yourself and, for many of us, in God. She has this incredible gift of helping women see themselves clearly again – not as victims, but as survivors who are capable of joy, peace, and purpose.
If you’ve been looking for something that feels real – not polished or performative – this is it. 
In summary Charli McLachlan Coaching is more than a business. It’s a movement – helping women rise, heal, and find freedom in who they truly are. If you’re searching for yourself again, or helping another woman do the same, I genuinely recommend visiting charlimclachlan.com.
Read her story, explore her programs, and see if your heart says, “This is for me.” Because healing doesn’t start with having all the answers – it starts with saying yes to hope.
🎤 Expert Interviews
Real Talk - Real Women
Lately, I’ve noticed quite a bit of chatter in the 30+ community about mammograms – and not the kind of chatter you want to hear. I’ve seen posts from women talking about being left bruised, extremely sore, and some even saying they never want to go through another mammogram again.
But here’s the thing – not checking our boobs isn’t an option. So, I wanted to share something that might help. I had a fascinating chat with Truly Godfrey, a Tauranga-based naturopath with extensive knowledge in thermography, a gentle alternative to traditional mammograms.
Being a woman can be challenging, so sharing anything that can help a sister stay well is a massive win! Whether you’re exploring different options or just want to be better informed, this is a conversation every woman over 30 should hear.
🧼 Skincare and Makeup Spotlight
Glow-up of the month
I know I sound like a broken record, but this is SO important! I only wish I’d been more sun-smart when I was younger – I wouldn’t now have 15 million scars from removals all over my body, ugh! 😩
But let me tell you why this is hands down the BEST sunscreen on the market:
Our sunscreen is certified SPF50+, so there’s virtually no chance of burning – as long as you apply it properly.
It’s also:
Cruelty free 🐰
Vegan (carrier creme) 🌱
Sulphate & paraben free
Marine friendly
Gentle on sensitive skin (including babies!)
Long-wearing
Sand & dirt resistant — perfect for active kids
Non-staining on clothes
No metallic reflection
Foundation-friendly — won’t curdle your makeup
Plus, it comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee, so if you’re not happy, you get a full refund. But honestly? You won’t be 😉😘
Grab yours here:
https://nutrimetics.com/en-nz/productdetail/158501/?u=thirtyplusandfabulous
💄 Exciting news! My makeup classes have officially hit the ground running!
If you’re in the Auckland area, over 30, and feel like you have no idea what to do with your face (haha!), this is your chance to learn all the tricks of the trade.
I’ll guide you step by step, sharing tips, techniques, and insider secrets so you can feel confident, fabulous, and ready to rock and roll!
✨ Spots are limited, so grab your girlfriends and treat yourself to a fun, empowering, hands-on experience that will totally transform your makeup game! 💖
Book your session here:
https://www.trybooking.com/nz/BASW
✨ It's a Spiritual Gig (Spiritual Reflection & Inner Wo rk)
Many of you might not know this, but my husband (LOVE saying that word!) and I host a group called The Spiritual Gig – and it’s been absolutely life-changing! ✨
Every Thursday night, we go live for worship, and it’s been incredible to witness testimonies of people being healed from all sorts of things. The atmosphere is electric, the energy is uplifting, and you’ll feel it the second you join.
But don’t just take my word for it… come experience it for yourself! We’d love to see you there, and who knows – this could be the night that changes everything for you. 💛
See you over there! x x
🧠 The Truth Bomb Corner
(Mindset Shift/Empowering Message)
“In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen. Really seen.” – is about authenticity and vulnerability in human relationships. Here’s what it means:
Being Truly Visible:
To connect deeply with others, you can’t just show a polished or curated version of yourself. You need to reveal your real thoughts, feelings, struggles, and joys.Vulnerability is Key:
Connection requires trust. By letting yourself be vulnerable, you’re giving others permission to do the same. It’s the courage to say, “This is who I really am” without hiding behind masks.Superficial vs. Real Connection:
Small talk or pretending to be “perfect” doesn’t foster meaningful relationships. Real bonds form when people see your true self, flaws and all.Emotional Courage:
Being truly seen can feel scary because it opens you up to judgment, rejection, or misunderstanding. But it’s also how genuine intimacy, empathy, and belonging happen.
💡 In short: You can’t fully connect with someone until you allow them to see the real you – and you can’t feel fully connected until you allow yourself to be seen.
🏆 This Week’s Prize
Just as a wee Thank You for reading our Who Spilled The Tea blog, I have got a lovely prize for one lucky winner.
This weeks prize is our absolutely GORGEOUS Wild Melon Wonder Oil (valued at $64).
All you have to do to be in the draw to win this amazing product is scroll down to the ‘Forward The Fabulous’ section and read the instructions 🙂
📍 IRL & Online Meetups
(Stay Connected In Real Life)
Welcome to the Thirty Plus & Fabulous Meetups! 💛
This is the official live meetup page, created as an exciting offshoot from our main Thirty Plus & Fabulous group. It’s all about real-life connections – getting together, sharing experiences, and having fun with amazing women aged 30+.
From coffee catch-ups and brunches to workshops, social gatherings, and meaningful conversations, this page is where our online community comes to life. It’s a space to build friendships, support each other, and enjoy all the fabulous moments life has to offer.
If you love the main 30+ group and want to meet members in person, this is the place to find out about all our upcoming meetups. Let’s make connection, laughter, and growth a part of our fabulous lives! ✨
Join us here and create a meetup in your area <3
https://www.facebook.com/groups/thirtyplusandfabulousmeetups
🔗 Stay in the Loop
You’re reading this newsletter from the Thirty Plus website – and here’s the cool part: now that you’re here, you can save this link!
Why? Because our website is your one-stop hub for everything Thirty Plus. Lost track of a group? Curious about upcoming hangouts, events, or makeup classes? Want to see what else we have going on?
Just come back here, and you’ll find it all in one place – easy, simple, and always up to date. ✨
https://thirtyplusandfabulous.com/
💌 Forward the Fabulous
If you’ve enjoyed this wee read, while sipping your morning coffee, would you mind leaving a comment in the facebook comments section and I will pop you in the draw to win our beautiful Wild Melon Wonder Oil (valued at $64)
And apart from that, have a lovely rest of your weekend!
